Dear Mistress,

My girlfriend has told me that she often fantasizes about being tied up during sex, and I know she’s tried it with other people in the past. We haven’t done any bondage, but I’ve noticed that she will often slip her hands behind her head or underneath the pillow when we’re having sex, almost like she’s restraining herself. I’m happy to tie her up, but I’m curious why people like to be bound. I want to make sure I know what I’m getting myself into, and she’s not very vocal about why she likes it.

Signed,
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Dear Mistress,

Shortly after I met my boyfriend of three months, he decided to become a vegetarian for health and ethical reasons. I’m a hard-core carnivore with a ravenous love of rare meat (I’ve even killed and cooked my own deer and turkey). I wasn’t sure how we’d get on, but we’ve proven to be a good match outside the kitchen. My issue is with his breath. All of a sudden, every meal he eats contains onions — “for flavor,” he says. He brushes his teeth, but the pungent smell of ramps, red onion and garlic persist. ... Read more

Dear Mistress,

What’s the gentlest way to suggest to my girlfriend that she tidy up her pubic hair — at least enough to fit it all into her bathing suit?

Signed,
Ambushed

Dear Ambushed,

You’re in a hairy situation, literally and figuratively. Personal grooming can be a sensitive topic, so avoid razor burn by approaching with caution. ... Read more

Dear Mistress,

I was recently dating a guy and we really seemed to like each other. On our third date, things were getting hot and heavy, but I wasn’t sure I wanted to have sex. He told me it was fine and expressed how much he was looking forward to our next date. I was charmed by his patience and ended up having sex with him. It was pretty hot, and he spent the night. He texted the next day to ask if I wanted to go out the following Saturday. All good, right? Wrong. ... Read more