Sex can be a lonely business, and not just when you're flying solo. Even when you and yours seem totally in sync, there's always room for secret thoughts: the simulated scenario that gets you over; that thing you wish you could be doing; that thing you do do, but don't dare divulge to anyone who isn't doing it with you.... Read more

Dear Lola,... Read more

Dear Lola,... Read more

Dear Lola,

Whenever my lover feels herself getting ready to orgasm, she always pushes me aside and finishes herself off on her own. She says it’s not me — she’s been following this pattern for years, with several different partners. The first time, I sort of enjoyed watching her, but after a while her solo climaxes just made me feel rejected. I’ve told her how I feel, and we’ve tried having me bring her to climax, but to no avail. Suggestions?... Read more