The Love Counselor
The woman Im dating is a lot wealthier than I am, and when we go out, she always insists on paying. When I do manage to grab the tab before she does, I inevitably discover a wad of cash hidden in my coat pocket or slipped beside my toothbrush. I appreciate her generosity, and the income gap really isnt an issue in our relationship. The problem is that by always picking up the tab, she deprives me of the pleasure of treating her. How can I convince her that it isnt necessarily nice to always insist on being nice?
Treated-out in Tunbridge
You put it very nicely in your letter. Your friend should find these same words convincing. If not, you may have to find less mercenary ways to express your feelings. How about preparing a meal yourself? Introducing her to a place youve discovered? Surprising her with a gift thats precious because of what it suggests, rather than what it costs? Your letter displays a lot of wisdom. Now its time to let your creativity kick in.