The Love Counselor
Im an attractive woman in her late thirties who has been getting a lot of unwanted attention from men 15 to 20 years older. I have tried saying politely, Thank you for your attention, but Im looking for someone my own age. This invariably throws the older man into a petulant fit, at which point I get called shallow, or worse. Can you suggest another response that wont hurt the mans ego? And why do men approach much younger women, anyway? The men Ive asked say that age isnt an issue but if that were true, I think Id be having more conversations with men my own age.
Our culture values youth. Take yourself, for example. Why are you so obsessed with the age of the men whose attention you receive? Why not get to know one of these guys before automatically dismissing him on the basis of his birth year? Then, if you decide to give him the old heave-ho, your rejection will be backed up with a little substance.